But is it True ENOUGH?
I often fight with people because their truth and my truth aren't EXACTLY aligned. But am I missing out on connection because of it?
The other day I had this thought,
“But Colby, is what they’re saying about you true ENOUGH that you could let the rest go, and move on?”
You see, I can sometimes get stuck in thinking that people need to see MY side of it entirely.
If they say something is navy blue, but I swear it is turquoise, I will dig my heels in and insist that we must be so very different.
Why can’t I just let it go and appreciate that we both at least see it as blue?
Or someone might insist that I do a particular thing, and the way they tell it—from their experience and perspective—I do this thing a lot. But for me, from my perspective, I only do this thing sometimes.
So I kick and scream and cry foul.
“How can you think I do this thing ten times a week, when I clearly only do it three!”
listen to yourself…
it’s true for them (that you do it) and it’s true for you (that you do it),
so maybe let go of needing those truths to line up perfectly, and instead just settle in to, “it’s true enough.”
In my heart of hearts I may really really want you to see me in a different way. To think differently about me. To have a different opinion on the severity of what I did, or the frequency with which I do it.
It would feel a lot better to me if you saw it the same as me.
But odds are, you won’t.
You maybe even can’t.
So why am I still fighting? Arguing? Defending so ardently against the gap between your perspective and mine?
Isn’t that all just ego defending? I fear that I’m not as good a person as I wish I was, or as I want you to see me as? So I rail against your version of events, your description of what happened, even though we’re both agreeing that a particular thing happened!
That’s my mantra right now:
Is it true ENOUGH?
Can what you think/feel be true enough to me that I stop my childish resistance and choose instead a grounded acceptance?