There are a handful of commonalities between the four in ten marriages that end in divorce. Since no one ever expects it will be them, it might be helpful to lookout for the signs.
I love this because it brings up a notion I've had that we don't have soul mates. We can fall in and out of love. I do think that often marriages, or even non-marital relationships, fall apart because the fireworks have gone. The intensity stops so people think they are no longer in love. Love has a very broad spectrum. It is then my belief that this is why we can be "in love" with multuole people. Human touch and affection feeds our bodies and minds generating seratonin and dopamine and Human Growth Hormones. While in a relationship we can still find someone else, even when not looking for it, to spark feelings. Like anything in life it's up to us to act on the feelings or not.
I was married for 27 years. I never should have been knowing I was gay. I did fall in love with her and I didn't not enjoy sex with her, but it's not what I wanted. I began a hidden promiscuity with men. Maybe because I spent a lifetime of suppressing my true self I found many ways to hook up that fed my body and mind... all the while feeding my guilt for cheating on her. She didn't deserve it. I digress. Anyway... those are my thoughts on it.
I love this because it brings up a notion I've had that we don't have soul mates. We can fall in and out of love. I do think that often marriages, or even non-marital relationships, fall apart because the fireworks have gone. The intensity stops so people think they are no longer in love. Love has a very broad spectrum. It is then my belief that this is why we can be "in love" with multuole people. Human touch and affection feeds our bodies and minds generating seratonin and dopamine and Human Growth Hormones. While in a relationship we can still find someone else, even when not looking for it, to spark feelings. Like anything in life it's up to us to act on the feelings or not.
I was married for 27 years. I never should have been knowing I was gay. I did fall in love with her and I didn't not enjoy sex with her, but it's not what I wanted. I began a hidden promiscuity with men. Maybe because I spent a lifetime of suppressing my true self I found many ways to hook up that fed my body and mind... all the while feeding my guilt for cheating on her. She didn't deserve it. I digress. Anyway... those are my thoughts on it.